I want to talk about this thing that happens in our community.
Unfortunately, there is a lot of judging each other..
a lot of turning on each other
this is just so not okay guys
One of the biggest ways I see this happen is doubting each other’s diagnoses
Which is absurd when you internalize that fact that we all have DIFFERENT Bipolar
Our Bipolar is not all the same
so you cannot declare another person to NOT be Bipolar
or to be LESS Bipolar
on and on
I have seen people get told they must not REALLY be Bipolar when they…
manage without meds
when they manage with small amounts of meds
when they get a good med combo right away or soon
when they can function through episodes
when they haven’t been hospitalized
when their dx is Bipolar 2
when their dx is Cyclothymia
when their dx is Bipolar NOS
when they can parent with Bipolar
Why do we do this to each other?
Are we just SO judged that we cannot help but turn and spew that shit on each other?
Because seriously guys
WHO does this help?
Is it just so hard to make peace with having to take meds that we cannot stand the idea that some people can make it without them?
Is it just so awful to be manic and psychotic that we have to make those with Bipolar 2 diagnosis feel less than?
Is it just too frustrating to be on our 5th med combo that we become enraged when we see people thriving on their first?
Is it just too heart breaking to decide that we cannot have a child and then when we see others who are purportedly “Bipolar” succeeding at raising children….
we can’t help but spew hate?
at each other
we absolutely will not fight stigma like that
we absolutely will not further our cause like that
Eradicating stigma in the general population is not something that will happen anytime soon
But I do believe that we can make progress in lessening the stigma we place on ourselves and on each other
We are all different
Bipolar is not a cut and dry kind of a thing
if you’ve gotten yourself to a diagnosis than you suffer
and we don’t need to judge each other’s suffering
we don’t need to judge the level of other people’s suffering
It isn’t a contest of who suffers the most
It isn’t a contest of who is the most Bipolar
and that if you aren’t believed to suffer enough
than you are not welcome into the clubhouse
who makes those rules?
When we do this we weaken the strength of our community
we hold ourselves back
we hold all of us back
so next time you find yourself about to doubt someone else’s diagnosis
about to judge someone else’s Bipolarness
consider that that person is different from you
that they have different Bipolar than you
that you don’t know their whole story
and that if we can’t unite
and create a strong voice
if we can’t reach out to each other with compassion and open hearts and minds
then we will never escape the prison society has us in
Bipolar together people
let’s be Bipolar together
it’s not a contest
it’s not a competition
It is not only the self reported worst cases of Bipolar Together
It is just simply Bipolar Together