So I was going to be done for the weekend. But I saw this meme thing. I am sad that she put her name on it. I am sure she is lovely and probably didn’t mean it the way we (my friend and I) took it but….it just brings up something that needs to be talked about…..
I tried to move on. Tried to forget it. But I couldn’t hold it back……
does that surprise anyone (if it does than you are new here…stick around)
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It’s “possible” ?????????
excuse me
because everyone thinks it is IMpossible?
Wow…
How crazy is that a person can actually be FRIENDS with a Bipolar person?????
Can you even believe that people with Bipolar Disorder can have FRIENDS?????
whoa
mind is blown
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That’s right!
We Bipolars can have friends…
we can also put on underwear and eat with a fork and a knife
and get this…
sometimes we even say please and thank you
it is AS IF we are just people too
people with a difference
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and how about the fact that lots of Bipolars aren’t even OUT to their close friends
yep World it is SO possible to be friends with a Bipolar person…
THAT YOU MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW YOU ARE DOING IT
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they’re all scared now…
trying to see if they can peel off their friends’ “normal person” masks to see if they can reveal the grotesque creature underneath…
the Bipolar person
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And YEAH if you are willing to take on a
CHARITY CASE….then it is possible to be friends with a Bipolar Person
but be prepared to WORK
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you know what?
It isn’t EASY to have a relationship with ANYONE
I have fantastic wonderful amazing friends and ya know what…
Our friendships are not actually ALL about them helping ME
yeah I know it is true
I actually help THEM, listen to THEM, support THEM
I’ve listened to them vent and cry
I’ve stayed up late on the phone with them when they needed it
I’ve held them
I’ve sat with them
and I’ve been understanding
yeah ME, a Bipolar CHick, I pulled all that off
SHOcking
and you know what
yeah (every long once in awhile ha) I have to drag out my PATIENCE for them
that is what a relationship IS
you don’t get to be close to another person without using patience and understanding.
that goes for EVERYONE
and ALL close relationships would be pretty IMPOSSIBLE without some patience and understanding.
That is just HOW IT WORKS
Bipolars aren’t a special case because we require patience and understanding
that is what HUMANS require
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A friend reminded me again of the Angelina Jolie from Girl Interrupted Issue…
normies see meme things like this and they think….
“Wow so with enough patience and understanding…you can actually be best friends with Angelina Jolie from Girl interrupted????!!!!”
and then they could think
“Now who would want to do that???”
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Guys
guess where I found this little pic
I can’t even tell you…
it is too much…
okay fine I’ll tell you
I found this in an article about busting the myths surrounding Bipolar Disorder
uh huh
I generally ignore those things having read thousands of them and honestly there is never anything new (pardon me I’m cranky. Blame STIGMA)
but for some reason I clicked it
it was a very nice article
but I just couldn’t get past this
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Stigma is SO STRONG that it rears its head in sheep clothing in articles which believe themselves to be BUSTING STIGMA
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Holy shit guys
This is our world
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I’m starting a new blog I don’t think I can handle this stuff anymore!
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So off you go everyone….
go thank your friends for putting up with your shit
just make sure they thank you for putting up with THEIRS
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The End
What the fuck are they pointing at! A bipolar person?!? It’s like they are saying something along the lines of, “With a little hope…and a tiny bit of magic…you too can love a bipolar!”
That’s what that translates to. God. Fuck.
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i may be crazy…..but this comment gave me a laughing fit.
I KNOW right!!!!!!!!!
good point. very nice addition to the piece.
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Good post. Patronising memes like that make my heart sink every time.
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Yeah…somehow it is even worse from people who think they are “helping”….
It is like they feel they are delivering some new news….surprise Bipolars are kinda just people like us…kinda
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Thank you for this! And I concur with the laughing for at Jess Melancholia’s comment — sums up my thoughts exactly!
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Oops. *Laughing fit
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It bears quire a resemblance to racism
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No one can really compare the girl interrupted characters, pretty sure Angelina Jolies character had antisocial personality disorder not Bipolar, plus the main character was Borderline. Can’t say I recall anyone being Bipolar in that film.
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Yes I know. That shows the ignorance of it all. I often joke that I feel like people except Bipolar to look like something really “crazy” like something like Angelina Jolie from Girl Interrupted and yes she isn’t even Bipolar in that but people just have such a skewed view of us. It just doesn’t occur to them that “normal” looking moms in the carpool lane could be something as scary as Bipolar….ugh
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Plus, I knew plenty of people with Bipolar who had a fair few friends, if anything they were slightly better then normies as they were able to empathise and be a lot more understanding. It’s people like me with Borderline that that meme should’ve been aimed at (not that I’m saying that the meme should exist at all) because one of the factors is intense and stormy relationships. Not saying it’s right either, fuck this meme
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Plus it’s possible to what? Whole meme isn’t even a proper statement of anything. Sorry about this 3 part comment
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HA I like the comment in parts. It gives it gravitas 😉
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haha I just saw this…I’ll just publicly say I have a lot of good friends, many I’ve been friends with for ten years or more (since I moved here) and not a single one knows I have bipolar. my husband is the only person that knows. and my sister. this meme is ridiculous.
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